Some days I really hate being friends with spiritual directors. I mean, I appreciate the deeper conversations about life and relationships and God. But then there are the times when these spiritual director friends ask those good questions. You know, the questions that stop you in your tracks. The questions you don’t quite have an […]
Month: December 2013
Fix Me! – November 5, 2013
I suspect I’ll never fully recover. From anxiety. From overworking. All in the name of being seen. When I was younger, I saw healing as a means to an end. It took years for me to even admit that I needed to be healed. Then, healing was sought out in hopes of (if I’m honest) […]
thresh·old – October 31, 2013
thresh·old noun \ˈthresh-ˌhōld, ˈthre-ˌshōld\ 1: the plank, stone, or piece of timber that lies under a door : sill 2a : gate, door; b (1) : end, boundary; specifically : the end of a runway (2) : the place or point of entering or beginning : outset 3a : the point at which a physiological or […]
Hammocked – October 29, 2013
I’m emerging from a busy season at work. Probably the busiest season I’ve ever experienced there. And there was a moment when I realized that it was all too much. I kept saying “I’m working myself to death,” which is absolutely an overstatement. Yet, I also knew that I had hit the bottom of my […]
Say My Name – October 10, 2013
Yup, I’ve gotten to the phase in online dating when the site just starts throwing out random folks at me. You said you wanted a man between 28 and 38? Well, how about this 25 year old (note: I’m 32 and those kind of age gaps are only socially acceptable when the genders are swapped […]
Slamming into a Wall – October 8, 2013
Last Thursday I hit my wall. You know. The Wall. The wall you hit when you just can’t keep going on at your current pace. The wall that unleashes all your emotions, tears, and exhaustion like an avalanche. Marathon runners talk about this wall they hit towards the end of a race. Then their legs give out and they do a crazy […]
Deal Breaker – October 3, 2013
Ok, so this was from a previous post, but it’s just as true today as it was back then. Last night I was looking at my matches and I started listing the things that elicit automatic no’s from me, or as Liz Lemon would call it, a Deal breaker. Enjoy! Jen’s Automatic Shut it […]
Feministly feminine? – October 1, 2013
I hate the term “feminist”. I mean, what does that even mean? Yes, I realize there is a definition of this word, but I’m frustrated about the varied ways in which we use the word. It can be praise or defamation, depending on the context. I mean, I could be seen as a “raging femi-nazi” […]
Dating from a Male Perspective – September 26, 2013
I’ve mentioned my brother here before on the blog as well as had him do some modeling for a post about online dating profiles. But today I’m picking his brain for thoughts on dating, from the male perspective. First though, let’s back up a bit. My brother is 8 years younger than me (though you’d never know now). He […]
Fabulous Fall – September 24, 2013
Today I bought my first pumpkin of the season. It was an exciting, impulsive moment. I was tempted to buy some gourds as well, but decided to wait until my next trip to Trader Joe’s. I think fall may very well be my favorite season. Now, I’m not just saying that because it is, in […]
Don’t Get Stuck in the Past – September 19, 2013
Last Friday I watched “Midnight in Paris” with a couple of friends. I’ve seen this film a few times and had just purchased it on DVD. The story largely revolves around a man who has idealized the past, to be precise, has idealized Paris in the 1920’s. And to be sure, there is much to […]
The Importance of Remembering – September 17, 2013
Yesterday I finally got around to seeing “The Butler.” While I had mixed thoughts on the film overall (although it was absolutely worth seeing solely for Forest Whitaker’s performance), I really appreciated how it invited the audience to remember. Part of the story follows Whitaker’s son, who is a key player in the Civil Rights […]