I remember once getting stood up for a coffee blind date. The person felt awful and re-scheduled. But instead of coffee, we went for lunch. I remember thinking that I was upgraded. And the fact that I thought that, made me aware of the hierarchy in dates. Now, I am in no way an […]
Singleness
First Date – July 29, 2013
This is a post from a couple of years ago (although I’ve expanded it for this post). I’m reminded of it as a couple of friends are going on first dates… I have a friend going on a first date this Friday. It’s been fun walking through this process with her, evaluating her date’s comments, […]
When There Isn’t An Easy Answer – July 26, 2013
Some days I am confronted by the fact that there is not an easy answer. Not surprisingly, this is not welcome news to me. Or to anyone. The reality is though, I live in a world that is overflowing with situations that cannot be explained with an easy answer. My post the other day dealt […]
Dating Response Cards – July 15, 2013
I have this idea, which I’m convinced will completely alter the way we approach dating. The post-date response card “What is this ‘post-date response card’ that you speak of?” you may be asking. I’m glad you asked. Have you ever been on a date which ended with the guy expressing an intention to call […]
Every Pot has its Lid – July 12, 2013
I have the joy of living with two single women. Some of my favorite moments with them are when we commiserate about singleness and the woes of dating. The other night one of my roomies shared a profile she’d come across on a dating site. As she read this man’s profile it quickly became clear […]
Overheard Dates – July 1, 2013
The other day I was sitting in a coffee house, doing some work. As I sat down, I saw a man and woman one table over. As I was not far from them I overheard bits of their conversation. Soon I came to the conclusion that they were on a date and from the sounds […]
Profile in Review – June 24, 2013
Let me take a minute now to discuss bad profile photos. There was a time, not too long ago, when you took a photo, finished a roll of film, then took it to get developed. Sometimes you hit the jackpot and got some great shots. Other times, your roll was blurry and out of focus, […]
Dating as Sanctification – June 17, 2013
I posted this blog a couple of years ago, but still resonate with the feelings I expressed at that point. Hope you survive this Monday – I know I woke up desiring a bit more sleep. Jen ………. I had the privilege of skyping with a dear friend today (so grateful for technology […]
Summer Wedding Series: Own the Dance Floor – June 10, 2013
It’s the final segment in the Summer Wedding Series! By now you should be armed and ready to step into the battle that is attending a wedding as a single person: Expectations adjusted? Check Avoiding awkward comments on singleness? Check Gracefully ditching the bouquet toss, thanks to SashaFierce? Check and check Owning the dance floor? […]
Summer Wedding Series: Why I love Beyonce’s “Single Ladies”, AKA The Dreaded Bouquet Toss – June 3, 2013
Here’s the third in my Summer Wedding Series. You started by adjusting yourexpectations. Then you learned some evasive tactics for those awful questions and comments pertaining to your singleness. Now, onto the dreaded bouquet toss… I am eternally grateful for Beyonce’s song “Single Ladies.” No, it hasn’t inspired me in life or encouraged me in […]
Summer Wedding Series: Your Day Will Come Soon and Other Unhelpful Comments – May 27, 2013
So, you’ve adjusted your expectations and now you are contemplating the reality of actually attending a wedding. Of course, the first fear that is popping into your head is: Great, now I get to hear comment on my singleness by all sorts of people. A couple of years ago I was invited to the wedding […]
Summer Wedding Series: Adjusting your Expectations – May 20, 2013
Today I’m starting a series on how to prepare for wedding season. Not as a bride, groom or family member, but as a single person. Weddings can be tricky and confusing for those who are single and these are a few tips I discovered along the way. For the next few Mondays I will post […]